Saturday, March 31, 2018

Thank you

I always said I regret nothing about my past.
Truth is... I do. I regret a lot of things.

Many of those moments that I regretted were from those times when I get hurt.

It's ironic. When we get hurt, we tend to hurt others too..
I read this long ago. And it's funny because I couldn't relate it to me. At that time, I could only see it in others around me.
Because the fact that I too, hurt others is something that my brain could not comprehend.
How could I? When I'm the center of my world.
In my mind, everything that I did, even to the point of hurting others is justified.

Now, as I grow older, I realized... during those times when I get hurt, I hurt a lot of people.
I hurt a lot of people who was trying to get to me.

And to these people... I am sorry and thank you.

Yet, there are those precious gems who even with everything that I did to push them away, they still stayed and they stay for a very long time.

To these people, thank you will never be enough. Only God can reward you for all the things you've done. 😊

Sunday, February 18, 2018

Love and Time

Once upon a time, there was an island where all the feelings lived; Happiness, Sadness, Knowledge and all the others, including Love.

One day, it was announced to all of the feelings that the island was going to sink to the bottom of the ocean. So, all the feelings prepared their boats to leave. Love was the only one that stayed to the end. She wanted to cherish the island paradise until the last possible moment.

When the island was almost totally under, Love decided it was time to leave. She began looking for someone to ask for help. 

Just then, Richness was passing by in a grand boat. Love asked, "Richness, Can I come with you on your boat?" Richness answered, "I'm sorry but there is a lot of silver and gold on my boat and there would be no room for you anywhere."

Then, Love decided to ask Vanity for help, who was passing in a beautiful vessel. Love cried out, "Vanity, help me please."
"I can't help you," Vanity said, "You are all wet and will damage my beautiful boat."

Next, Love saw Sadness passing by. Love said, " Sadness, please let me go with you."
Sadness answered, "Love, I'm sorry but I just need to be alone now." 

Then, Love saw Happiness. Love cried out, "Happiness, please take me with you."
But, Happiness was so overjoyed, that he didn't hear Love calling to him. Love began to cry.

She then heard a voice say, "Come, Love, I will take you with me." It was an elder. Love felt so blessed and overjoyed that she forgot to ask the elder his name. 

When they arrived on land, the elder went on his way. Love realized how much she owed the elder. 
Love looked for Knowledge and asked, "Who was the elder that helped me?"
"It was Time," Knowledge answered. 

"But, why did Time help me, when no one else would?" Love asked.

Knowledge smiled and with deep wisdom and sincerity, answered, 
"Because only Time is capable of understanding how great Love is."
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I read this story once when I was in secondary school. Yes. This story is deep and it tells how only time is capable to understand love.

But now, when I read this, I think Love in this story is stupid.
Love in this story is weak and stupid.

Why can't she just prepare the boat while cherishing the island?
or why can't she just be a badass and swim her way to land?

Then I reflect upon my life and yes, love can make us stupid. Often, emotions control us; clouding our judgment. Of all, love has a very firm grip when taking the control; sometimes it makes you stupid, and interesting enough, love takes control of other emotions as well.

Like a fool, she remained though she knew that the island is sinking. She couldn't help it. It's her nature. When you love you'll try to hold on even though you know, there is no hope.
Sometimes, sinking along with it.
As of now, I can tell... she's not capable yet. She wants to leave. It hurts her. But she doesn't have the courage. She wants to hold on as long as she can.
So, I'll tell her to pick up the wood, and start to build her boat. I'll keep telling her that.
Or maybe when the time comes, she'll swim her way to land.
And that time, I know, she won't look back again.

Have courage!
 

Tuesday, January 16, 2018

Of all the hows and the whys #1


I still remember those days when my heart felt so suffocated. I don't like people coming any closer. The closer they get, the higher the walls get. I could literally see that glass wall trapping me inside. When people tried to get closer, my mind would scream 'Don't! Go away!'

So I ended up being alone most of the times. I know a lot of people. People who love me. People who admire me. People who were genuinely concerned about my well being. But I couldn't let them in. I always run away. My guard was up to the max.

To be honest, it was painful. That loneliness that no one could understand. It was so painful. But the pain was familiar, so I felt safe. Behind that wall, I seek comfort in that pain that no one knows about.

It started with a betrayal by a precious friend and it all went downhill. Precious people passed away. My aunt and my father's death left a very deep hole. I was so sad but I had to be strong. I don't have much chances to stop and grief. And that's how it started.

For quite sometimes, I couldn't let people in. I felt overwhelmed. When I love, I love too much. So it struck me so deep when I had to face the loss. So I keep on telling myself, you cannot let anyone in anymore. You won't be able to handle any more losses.

Redha or contentment. That's all I have to do and everything will be okay. It's easy to say but to actually do that, it's hard. It's so hard.

Allah had designed such tests for me that it took years for me to finally understand and embrace them fully without any questions.

I question a lot of things honestly. Why did Allah gave me this test? Why did this happen? How can that happen. Why? Why and Why? And in this pursuit of all the hows and the whys, I continue to grow.

For quite sometimes, my heart was dead. There were times when I would pray to god and asked for a new heart. I was scared of His tests though. So, I asked for an easy life.

Allah, He is Al Jabbar, the one who mends.

One day, He flicked a brand new feeling. Something that I had never felt before. Honestly, it made me feel lost. It made me feel so lost that I had no one, no other place that I can turn to, except Him. That feeling created a new pain. It was so painful. My heart and my mind suddenly get stormy. So I did what I could, I begged for His help. I begged and begged. He didn't answer right away though.

So, I gave up at one point and I run away again. Just like I always did. But, this time, no matter what I did, I couldn't get it off my mind. It's funny and sad at the same time.

So, I turned to Him again. I begged and begged, and one day, He drew my attention to this verse, Al Baqarah, verse 45; And seek help through patience and prayer, and indeed, it is difficult except for the humbly submissive [to Allah ]

Honestly, I still didn't have a definite answer to that particular question. But I got the answers to all my questions before. I got my answers to an almost 8 years worth of questions.

It's true, when I look back, all the puzzles fitted perfectly.
How could it not? The Designer is perfect. (Yasmin Mogahed)

Each time He gave me the tests, He wanted to bring me back to Him. He wanted me to come to him. But I was too proud. I was lost in my own world.

I learned about Him but I didn't truly know Him.
I keep on looking at the creation instead of the Creator.
I mistaken things for the Real thing.
I didn't realize that in my heart, there is a place created by, and for, Him alone.
I didn't fully understand Him, that He is our murabee - the One who raises us with more mercy than a mother raises a child.

May Allah continue to guide me to Jannah. Amin..

Peace doesn't exist outside. It can only exist inside.

And the peace that is on the inside cannot be taken away by anyone. 
No matter what they do, No matter what they say. No matter what they threaten.

If your paradise is in your heart, no one can take it.
-Love and Happiness, Yasmin Mogahed- 
 

Tuesday, January 2, 2018

I'm 26, single and still awesome!

It's 2018.

I'm 26, single and still awesome as hell. hahahaha

I really want to blog more this year. It's fun to read the posts in the future. Now that I think about it, it's been 10 years since I started blogging.

I somewhat regrets those years that I didn't write much. I should've just write whatever I had in my mind. I used to keep everything to myself. I still do but I'm doing great in sharing a lot of things buzzing around in my mind. Nah~ scratch that. It's been a total storm inside my mind lately. Hahaha. It's getting better though.


I realized, lately I've been more honest with myself. I used to deny a lot of things inside my mind. I used to deny my own feelings. I used to mock myself. I used to hate myself. But, nowadays, I've started to accept myself more. I've started to acknowledge my own feelings. I've started to accept myself for who I am. Hopefully, there will be a day where I won't have to deal with all of these anymore. Most probably after I'm dead. hahaha

By acknowledging my feelings, without realizing, I've started to embrace my inner child self. I'm becoming that annoying child who used to pester people to love her again. Hahaha. With that, I'm freely throwing tantrum when I'm home with my mom and my other siblings. Probably because I know that they would never disown me. Hahaha.

When I was a child, I was probably very annoying. I wanted a lot of love but the only way for people to like you is to stop being childish.
The child me understood those likes as being loved. I remember many of those moments. Without realizing, I started to have this distorted idea that you need to appear as a mature individual for people to like you.
So I started to appear like one around my friends. I wanted them to like me, to admire me.
In the end, those didn't matter much. It will never be able to satisfy you. Not until you're able to accept yourself for who you are.

Anyway, that's all for today.
May tomorrow be better. InsyaAllah.